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The three most important things in Leadership are …

… relationships, relationships, relationships!

While this isn’t rocket science, we all know that our relationships are crucial to how effective we can be in all aspects of life. “It’s not what you know, but who you know”, we’ve heard for many years. How to strengthen those relationships?

Daniel Goleman introduced the world to Emotional Intelligence (EI), providing us with an owners manual of sorts, for ourselves! Self-Awareness, Self-Management, Social Awareness and Relationship Management are the four areas that make up our EI. Research from The Center for Creative Leadership indicates that to be a more effective leader, improving your EI is more important than your IQ! The exciting news is that we can improve our EI, indicating that we can improve our ability to have more effective relationships, improving our capacity to be even better leaders and team members.

Know Thyself – Where to start? With ourselves – Self-Awareness and Self-Management. Knowing we can’t control others, but can choose how we act and respond to others, this is part of using our emotional intelligence. We are the instrument with which we do what we do. Leader, team member or both, it all starts with what we think and feel and how we act. The impact we have on others, provides us feedback on what we might keep doing or change.

Working with others –  Whether we work with one or more people throughout our day, as a defined team or just in relationship with others, we can then apply our self work to our Social-Awareness and Relationship-Management.  Vanessa Druskat has published a number of articles in HBR and elsewhere sharing her expertise in Emotional Intelligence and Teams. Relationships are curious and complex. EI helps us understand where and how to focus to improve our contribution to these relationships.

Margaret Wheatley has been quoted as saying,”Power in an organization is the capacity generated by relationships.” I would suggest the same goes for power/strength in our families and communities as well.

Where to start? Empathy is a core aspect of Emotional Intelligence. Taking time to empathize with others can dramatically improve our relationships at work and at home.

How do you increase your empathy for others?

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